Yesterday, at the church potluck, I visited a young couple about
the agonizing decision as a Christian where to send your child to
school. A point I made was involved parents have more positive
affect, than all the negative ones in the school. Karen Carnahan
affirmed this and sent me a great read, I wish to share with you.
"The death of George HW Bush has caused me to reflect on what
really matters to my children and others at the end of life. As I
was watching the eulogy given by his son George W Bush, I made
a mental note of what actually mattered to George W at the end
of his father’s life and what things had made him a better, well-
adjusted adult.
His father played games with them, had fun with them, had
family dinners with them, and showed them integrity and love
for others. But the thing that seemed to leave the biggest
impression on George W was that he loved their mother fiercely.
Perhaps it was because George HW lost a child, that his family
values were so on point.
In the eulogy George W didn’t mention once that his parents
made sure he had organic food his whole life, or had Pinterest
worthy birthday parties, or the perfect monogrammed matching
outfits with his siblings. He didn’t mention that his parents made
sure their week was planned with playdates and millions of
extracurricular activities. He reflected over and over again
about how much his dad loved and was dedicated to his mother.
I worry that we get so caught up in the minor things that we
forget the major thing which is teaching our kids what
unconditional love and loyalty looks like.
As a counselor, I see so many marriages falling apart and so
much strife and discontentment in life occurring because so
much time and attention is spent on the minor things. The
results of this are broken marriages, discontentment, lack of self-
esteem, anger, addiction, depression, anxiety, and in some cases
suicide. All of the resources given to the minor things in turn
cause the major things to fall apart.
Feeling secure in a family will have more of a long term effect on
the well-being of a person than any of the minor stuff so much of
our time and effort is spent on. We say our value is family, but
our actions show something completely different." (https://refuge.church/2018/12/07/the-major-thing/?fbclid=IwAR0Sj1rpxx21n-4Z7L7hXdSdFu6XAFjbnj1UV8cqnXHJdDKvdoGjjKX8AOw)
There is a place for everyone in God's family. I have a sneaking
suspicion you know someone this Christmas season who feels
like a nobody! Who feels beyond redemption. You know what
they need a hug, a family, and a friend. Will you be that friend?
They probably would not vocalize it but on their Christmas list
they want to be loved and to love. They want to be noticed. They
want someone to listen. They need someone to love them. To
invite them to our xmas eve service. Meet that need because of
what God has done for you!
the agonizing decision as a Christian where to send your child to
school. A point I made was involved parents have more positive
affect, than all the negative ones in the school. Karen Carnahan
affirmed this and sent me a great read, I wish to share with you.
"The death of George HW Bush has caused me to reflect on what
really matters to my children and others at the end of life. As I
was watching the eulogy given by his son George W Bush, I made
a mental note of what actually mattered to George W at the end
of his father’s life and what things had made him a better, well-
adjusted adult.
His father played games with them, had fun with them, had
family dinners with them, and showed them integrity and love
for others. But the thing that seemed to leave the biggest
impression on George W was that he loved their mother fiercely.
Perhaps it was because George HW lost a child, that his family
values were so on point.
In the eulogy George W didn’t mention once that his parents
made sure he had organic food his whole life, or had Pinterest
worthy birthday parties, or the perfect monogrammed matching
outfits with his siblings. He didn’t mention that his parents made
sure their week was planned with playdates and millions of
extracurricular activities. He reflected over and over again
about how much his dad loved and was dedicated to his mother.
I worry that we get so caught up in the minor things that we
forget the major thing which is teaching our kids what
unconditional love and loyalty looks like.
As a counselor, I see so many marriages falling apart and so
much strife and discontentment in life occurring because so
much time and attention is spent on the minor things. The
results of this are broken marriages, discontentment, lack of self-
esteem, anger, addiction, depression, anxiety, and in some cases
suicide. All of the resources given to the minor things in turn
cause the major things to fall apart.
Feeling secure in a family will have more of a long term effect on
the well-being of a person than any of the minor stuff so much of
our time and effort is spent on. We say our value is family, but
our actions show something completely different." (https://refuge.church/2018/12/07/the-major-thing/?fbclid=IwAR0Sj1rpxx21n-4Z7L7hXdSdFu6XAFjbnj1UV8cqnXHJdDKvdoGjjKX8AOw)
There is a place for everyone in God's family. I have a sneaking
suspicion you know someone this Christmas season who feels
like a nobody! Who feels beyond redemption. You know what
they need a hug, a family, and a friend. Will you be that friend?
They probably would not vocalize it but on their Christmas list
they want to be loved and to love. They want to be noticed. They
want someone to listen. They need someone to love them. To
invite them to our xmas eve service. Meet that need because of
what God has done for you!
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